Prince Charming

I am disgusted with romance books and movies. I am disgusted with women telling other women and teenage girls that Prince Charming doesn't exist. Movies make the principal character seem flawless, but do you think he doesn't have to light a match once in a while after he leaves the bathroom? Don't you think even the most chivelrous of characters track mud through the house for the princess to clean up? Perfection sometimes picks his nose when he thinks you're not looking. But those flaws are trivial compared to the truly "charming" nature of a real prince.

There are happy endings! Sometimes our fairytales are in unexpected people. My husband, Albert, was hand-picked for me by God, and I truly believe that. When I first met him, I wasn't instantly in love, but a month later I was head-over-heels. I remember thinking how annoying I found him, even though I also thought he was very attractive. It took me looking beneath the surface to find the truly exceptional husband I have today. And what makes him so exceptional? He loves every part of me. He values me as a person. He NEVER puts me down, never insults, never belittles, never asks me to change. He also leads me closer to God, and that, my dear friends, is the most important quality a "prince charming" can have.

When you agree to marry someone, it is not simply a contract. It is a covenant between 3 people--you, your husband, and God. Just because you can picture yourself marrying someone, doesn't mean he is the right someone for you. Can you also picture yourself divorcing that same person? I may be so upset with Albert at times that the thought of divorce crosses my mind, but upon that reflection, a deep and overwhelming sadness floods my very being. There is no sense of freedom or contentment with the thought of losing Albert.

I have dated, boys really, before and have thought with each of them that I could never find anyone better. But in thinking that way, I was settling. I believed all the lies that Prince Charming wasn't coming to save me. I believed that I wasn't worthy of the happiness others had. I thought that love must be dramatic or else I would be bored. Ha! Jokes on me! Even the most perfect of relationships have plenty of drama, and I can tell you with the most sincere honesty that WE will never be bored.

Another lie told to many if us is that we should live together before marriage to see if it will work. Ladies, huge mistake! You can't give it an honest try without the bond of marriage. Once you are married, you don't go back. You work harder to make things work. It's like babysitting for someone else's kids and deciding you don't want children. Any parent can tell you it is a much different experience when its your own. You don't have the option of giving the child back--you have to make it work, which makes parenting your own child much more successful than a trial run with someone else's kids.

The final lie that is the most dangerous of all lies is sex before marriage. Many people become instantly offended when you tell them that what they're doing is wrong. I know some may think I am old-fashioned, but we will see who is still happily married in 20 years. Sex should be between a husband, wife, and God. It is a renewal of your marriage vows every time. When you are in a relationship, you should be doing everything you can to get the other person to Heaven. If youre having sex before marriage, you are putting lust in front of that person's salvation. I am not saying you will go to Hell, because I don't know, but why would you want to risk that other person's soul (and your own) for moments of pleasure that mean nothing without God's presence? I have fallen into temptation and I know where it leads--to the lie that fairytales do not come true.

Thank you, Albert, for loving me before you even knew me. Thank you for waiting to experience a love that is so holy and pure. I am sad that some people think virginity is a dirty word. Don't be fooled by the lies. I don't want anyone to read this and be filled with hate. I often find the only people who are offended by such thoughts are those who have believed nightmares are reality.

Prince Charming IS real. I married him. And there are many princes out there, just be patient.